Create Passion

I get what you're saying about generating the passion yourself and doing it with anyone at anytime...but it leaves me with a bunch of questions...i mean doesn't the romance go out of the relationship because men stop chasing and women stop being impressed?....or because people wake
up to reality and realize that they're not with their match...and because
they start sharing bathrooms and always sleeping in the same bed--dissipating
all the romance and sexual tension.... I've been thinking a lot about this
lately...how i'd better choose someone that i'm really impressed by and
really adore and really feel lucky to be with because my adoration
admiration and desire for him will be the fuel of our relationship...and
it's exhausting to generate that if it's not really real...it feels like
being in the relationship by yourself.

here's the thing: if a woman says to you --"i can get myself turned on and
excited with any man at any time""I can feel this same love and connection
that i feel with you right now with any man, at any point because it has
nothing to do with you...I'm generating it" aren't you kind of left
wondering what your purpose is in the relationship? I hear my female
friends say all the time something like "i couldnt tell if he was inspired
by me or if he's just about being in a relationship" or "i don't know if
he's just that way in general or if he's that way because of me." women
want to be so inspiring to men that they do things they wouldn't normally do
and feel things thy wouldn't normally feel...and i think it's the same for
men. isn't it? The problem is I don't know that any one human being can
inspire another human being in that way for decades and decades... it seems
like they have to be constantly growing and creating inspiring things in the
world together and having new adventures.